Thursday, May 8, 2014

4 Things I want You to Know About our Adoption

I have been very apprehensive about making this public. I mean if you're close to me you already know, but for other friends near and far... The Nichles family is about to grow!

 No, Emily is not pregnant and no we're not getting more animals at the farm, we are adopting. Now this isn't earth shattering if you have spent any time with me or our family because we have thought about this for years. We have even looked into it several times and the timing was just not right. But in the last few months Gods timing, provision and our hearts began to line up and an opportunity has presented itself for us to follow God in this new journey.

There are a couple of things I would like to ask all of you as we navigate the unknown waters ahead:

1. Please pray for us! Seems docile I know, but we really are seeking 3 things from God and ask you to ask Him for them as well: wisdom, discernment and favor. Colossians 1:9, Luke 2:52

2. Do NOT ask questions like what age? what gender? or especially what "color"?!?  We do not know nor really do we care! We have an idea where God is leading us but we also know that God knows infinitely more than we do about our families future and we want to arrive at the destination he has not where we want.
(Our hearts desire is to adopt a child in late childhood-early teens because they are the least likely to be adopted statistically, plus it fits our "natural" life stage with our own children) Philippians 4:8

3. Do NOT "share" with us others horror stories of this process. We know the risk and are prepared as best we can for heartbreak, we trust God and know he will be faithful. Simply love us and encourage us to remain steadfast and faithful! Ephesians 4:29

4. Please DO be patient with our family as we navigate a plethora of BIG decisions like where to send our kids to school, what events and socials we can participate in, and how our family adjusts to a new member. Ephesians 4:32

Right now we are reading some very helpful blogs, books and other resources from those who have adopted and are very encouraged. If you have other suggestions in this area we would love to hear from you...

Current reads:

The Bible- sounds trite but Gods speaks ALOT about adoption
Orphanology by Tony Merida
Reclaiming Adoption by Dan Cruver and John Piper
Becoming Home by Barna (Frames)

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Praying for you during this time. Adoption is amazing... In fact I have 2 cousins who are adopted and they turned out to be great kids. It is a LIFE changing experience for both sides. I pray for your family and the foster children. I hope and pray that you find that special kid that God has chosen just for you.

With love in Christ,
The Hebert family